Cupid’s depicted in a lot of art across Europe, and he seems to be a funny guy. I think that’s why as soon as I was more content in singledom, and not looking for a holiday fling that unlikely suitors appeared.
Just like in all the fairy tales, 3 suitors came, each from further away, and each more intense than the previous.
Suitor 1 was Italian. Incredibly deep, heart felt and a very good listener. He was eager to hear all about my relationship history; the ups and the downs, and yet I wasn’t fooled by the friend card.
When an offer for a midnight moonlight scooter ride arose, I refrained from raising my eyebrow and politely declined ignoring various attempts of persuasion.
Suitor 2, the Spaniard, you may remember from a previous blog “Memoirs of a Keisha”
What originally was a light chat banter suddenly became more intense. 20 successive photos of himself in a row I put down to cultural differences, but then poetry and several messages a day kept coming even if I didn’t reply.
“Roses are red, violets are blue. All of my thoughts involve you!
¡Buenos días princesa!”
Not saying anything clearly wasn’t working so I decided it was time to rectify the situation.
I wrote something along the lines of… recently single, enjoying travelling, not really thinking about guys, hope you can understand.
He replied: “Ok I stop messaging you in a sweet way, and just message you as friends. Kisses”
Suitor 3 I’d met in a group context, so I was relaxed and friendly. When I started to pick up an interested vibe, and he wasn’t picking up on my blatantly just want to be friends vibe I tried the cold shoulder with little success.
He messaged “I’m going past your hostel, do you want to come see my place and have a fresh lemonade”
“No thanks, I’m just relaxing and doing my taxes”
“Do it after, come now just for 1/2 hour”
“Sorry I’m busy, maybe later”
“I’m at your hostel in the courtyard. Come out”
I buried myself further into my bed.
“I want to read for awhile”
“Come read at my place”
“Sorry I just need some Kesha time”
“Okay, come over later, take your time”
I don’t reply. 10 minutes later I receive a photo of his courtyard and a jug of lemonade which I also ignore.
Several hours later the group is dining together again, but I keep my distance especially enthralled in everything the new girl from Melbourne has to say.
I dodge him for most of the night, but wake up to a drunk declaration of feelings. Unfortunately his message didn’t evoke any swoonery, it just made me feel a little ill.
I don’t reply. Next thing there’s a photo of his breakfast.
I reply. Something along the lines of what suitor 2 got.
I come back to my hostel and he’s waiting there. Seriously?! He insists on walking me to my taxi (to the next town – thank god!) and I escape with a slightly too enthused kiss on the cheek as a mutual friend walked past at the opportune time.
It seems to me the age old condition of wanting what we can’t have.
Why else would all these strangely persistent suitors appear (and not disappear) when I had virtually no romantic interest in them?
If hypothetically there was such a princess, I think in the fairy tale version they’d all fuck off and she would get to choose someone herself if and when she felt like it.
But then maybe this alleged hypothetical princess needs to worry less about hurting people’s feelings and be more assertive. Damn Disney, teaching niceties and
It would appear that Disney princesses would be very ill equipt for Cupid’s cheeky ways.